I outed myself

if he knows what's good for him, he'll play along.

Classic!! My husband is on holidays to the new year so I can't sneak off to the computer or even have my writing pad around. It would prompt too many questions. I'm now writing my latest story in the notes app on my iPhone (no questions there as I'm always on my phone).

you know, there is a cycle husbands have to go through... first there is disgust. then there is denial. after that they enter a mocking phase. that doesn't last long as mocking isn't good for husbands for any reason and the smart ones figure that out quick. then comes acceptance. you know you've reached this stage when your husband says something like, "hey, i heard there's a new movie starring Christopher Plummer. How about I babysit so you can go see it?" or you hear them humming 'my favorite things' in the shower.

warning: sometimes the mocking stage is disguised as acceptance.

Actually, my husband is just one big tease really. I think he still thinks I'm a little strange with my JA obsession and he was so good when I got to meet her. He didn't come along to the performance (I went with my parents) but I rang him the moment I had finished with meeting JA and he was just so pleased for me that I had had that experience as he knew how much it meant to me (and he patiently listened for days and days afterwards as I raved how good it was and re-lived every detail over and over to him).

But I do think he gets a bit fed up with my constant updates to how many weeks/days it has been since I met JA so he started his own count since he met a semi-famous footballer (who just happens the be the dad of one of my daughter's friends) just to annoy me back!

Mine knows that I've been reading fanfiction, but I hide that I've started writing it as if he finds out, he'll want to read it and then ALL the real mocking will begin. No.... Let's just keep it a secret between all of us on this forum

oh, it started in secret... but eventually i just told him. that's a long story. he asked to read stuff. i said no. then i gave him a few chapters of my 'lost in you' story and he mentioned all the typos. said nothing else. and the way he pointed out the typos really irritate me. so then i said, 'ok, thanks... you've been most helpful' and under breath 'in helping me decide to never show you another chapter.' then he wanted to read more so i caved... he got as far as chapter 8.

and that was months ago. since then, its just about the movie. and he's learned to let it ride. "happy wife, happy life" is a real thing.

half asleep? is he going to remember when he's fully awake? half asleep for my husband = coma.

that's great, though! he likes to see you happy... this is a very good thing.

Update time: HE NOW KNOWS EVERYTHING!!!!!! Oh help!!!

So what happened was I ditched doing study last night as I had been working all day (and who really wants to study on a Saturday night right?) instead, I completely engrossed myself in reading "An accidental governess" (totally awesome, I don't know why I had never read it before) and ignored him for the whole night.

So finally as we were heading off to bed, he asks me what I had been reading. So I told him (ok that was fine). Then he says... "You and your fan fiction, next thing you are going to be telling me is that you are writing it too!" I freeze and go as red as Maria after the Laendler... (I think "Oh help" plus a few more words that I won't say here).
"You are writing it!!!" He exclaims as he can read me like a book (or fan fic in this case). It was all over.... He knows.... The mocking started. He wants to know long how I've been writing. Not long I say. I tell him he can NEVER read them. He wants to. I say no. He says he's going to google it. I say no. He says why not. Because I say no. He says what's your screen name. I say I'm not telling. He wants to know how much I've written. I say I'm not telling. When have you been writing? In my downtime I say. So how many pages? I don't know I say (of course I do). How many words? I don't remember (of course I do - I remember everything about numbers). Can I read it? No!!!

So finally I say, well I did tell you about it the other night. When? I don't know, the other night. You were right lemacd, he didn't remember a thing being half asleep.
Now I just keep getting "the look" all day. I don't even have to say anything... I just get the look. Also he's now putting on silly voice and saying "Oh, Maria!! Oh whatever the guy from dragnets name is!! Ohhhhh!!" And making kissing sounds (I swear he never grew up from being 10). It is seriously too much to endure!!!!

oh wow. i don't even know what to say about this except that i'm sorry.

if it helps at all (though how would it help you?) i have a new appreciation and deeper sense of gratitude that my husband knows and is supportive.

good luck. maybe he'll get bored with making fun of you.

you could try the "i do it because it makes me happy.  it will only make your life better for me to be happy." line.  

because it is very true.

This is a positive attitude.  He will tone down,  eventually. ..



I'm so sorry.  Ugh men. It's as Lemacd said, he must see that this makes you happy. 
My husband was mocking in the beginning too. Now there's the occasional "oh you're reading again? What is it this time? "  I just tell him what it is and it's fine. 

He did read the few things I wrote.  Just not sure if I would let him read M rated stuff. On the other hand he should know by known how my mind works after almost 14 years.....but then again it's a man.  

Yep... That's what he calls him, although I did mention the other day that we have been referring to him as C Plumilicious so he has adopted that terminology now. (And he still hasn't seem TSOM)

oh oh I've let him read a few stories now. There wasn't mocking thankfully, he gave me lots of praise (although he hasn't read any sexy fics yet so we'll wait and see). He's decided to get his own back on me and he's apparently writing a screen play but I have no idea what it is on and when I get to read it)

update time. I just let my guy read what I wrote today for the march prompts and since he hasn't seen the movie, I said oh you probably don't even know who Max is. He said I don't even know who George is (and said it like George not Georg) so I said his name is Georg, not George and he was like are you serious?? What kind of name is that?? He thinks I'm making it up!!

yeah the drinking game wouldn't work as he doesn't drink (and coke doesn't count) and while I LOVE wine, I (unfortunately) don't get to drink it that often. I think he's quite happy to watch the movie with me but since I've been studying every night for the past few weeks (and more weeks to come) it may have to wait for a while before we'll watch it together (and the 2 minutes I put on last night for him just to prove that Georg's name is Georg and not George that I've misspelled doesn't count).

I'm sorry your writing class got cancelled. That must be very disappointing. Are there any others that you can do? That is so sweet of your husband to be disappointed for you. I'm sure I read you saying once that just keep writing and writing to get better (or something along those lines) so just keep writing.... we are your biggest fans here and we love your stuff!

Muilt-tasking, You know that!!

that's the plan, man.