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Post by augiesannie on Jan 29, 2014 20:11:20 GMT
I think many men (and certainly many men in the 1930s) might have had fewer misgivings than, say, I might (uh, if I were a man) about a sexual relationship with a woman (not a fragile young innocent, BTW) even if he wasn't sure he was in love with her or was going to marry her.
I think that many women, as well as well as some men in other places and times, might have had more misgivings.
I don't like to stereotype -- people are individuals -- but you wouldn't have to do very much research to show that over the course of history, men have more often behaved promiscuously than women.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2014 20:31:22 GMT
Thanks for explaining (I'm a little slow on the uptake this morning). As I said before, I keep thinking one way, then changing my mind then changing my mind again. Lots of stuff to consider.
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Post by lemacd on Jan 29, 2014 20:33:38 GMT
and yet, in order to do so, there had to be a woman involved. well, at least in a majority of those times. but we don't have to bring max into this, do we? *sound of a worm can opening*
as much as we like to romanticize the past, casual sex is not a modern invention.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2014 20:58:04 GMT
Well obviously Max was brought to the villa to be the chaperone so there would be a certain level of "no, nothing is going on" but wonder about what the chaperone level would have been in Vienna?
I think I'm now leaning towards no, they didn't do it (but I'm sure I'll change my mind again before the morning is out)
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Post by lemacd on Jan 29, 2014 21:14:26 GMT
to be honest, i think there is a valid argument for both sides, so no matter how it is written, it works. i wonder if while in vienna it would have been elsa's responsibility for arranging for a chaparone... you know, being on her turf and all. while it is clear that elsa knows max, it is clear that he is really georg's friend. so maybe in vienna, elsa had one of her friends stay with them. what kind of interesting person would that be, i wonder...
... a beautiful socialite, secretly on the prowl? ... Victor the part time ski instructor, part time pool boy adonis? ... josephina, her deaf, blind and mute great aunt?
does anyone else get that jittery feeling when an idea for a fanfic pops out of nowhere?
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Post by utility_singer on Jan 29, 2014 21:16:08 GMT
I agree there is a generational divide. There is also the class/social distinction as well. Men mostly did not sleep with women they would consider wife material, they went elsewhere--not to common street prostitutes, but more discreet 'kept' women.There is one fic I remember that has G with a mistress that is not Elsa. After an encounter, he says he won't be back, and she tells him that whoever it is is "a lucky girl".
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Post by augiesannie on Jan 29, 2014 22:06:22 GMT
OH, yes, I remember that mistress fic, it might have been Sandra's. And the class divide is why, lemacd, you can go ahead and zip that can of worms back up, because an individual woman can be with more than one man, last time I checked. And I think these were women who, well ,maybe viewed one way they were victims, but there's also an argument that they enjoyed a certain degree of independence and, well, fun. It's a complicated question. I think G would have had a long period of feeling dead, yes, but that eventually certain instincts would kick in, and I wanted him to act on those instincts precisely so he could be reminded of what he's lost and then be glad to find it again. Angst would be my middle name if, you know, my name were really augiesannie. "Casual sex is not a modern invention" made me smile. As did the alternative chaperone candidates. Honestly, I think Max was "just for show." And I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets that jittery feeling.
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Post by lemacd on Jan 29, 2014 23:19:17 GMT
"an individual woman can be with more than one man, last time i checked." you actually checked?! LOL i think you missed my innuendo about max. or i'm missing your point. the latter is very likely. either way, not important. love your angst, of course. i like your interpretation of "dead inside" . i just meant to contrast how he feels pre-maria, how he doesn't necessarily invest in anything emotionally. post-maria (i mean, from the time she enters his life, not the moment he falls in love with her) something happens... well, you know me and my affinity for the idea that maria makes him feel alive.
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Post by indigoblue on Jan 30, 2014 0:08:29 GMT
Does the 'It's Complicated' option in the poll cater for Georg and Elsa getting together at the villa, say when Maria returns to the abbey, and just at the opportune moment, Georg suffers an equipment failure (like Lemacd's 'he CAN'T'), because he can't put M out of his mind?
i.e. they do, but they don't?
Sorry to be so obtuse.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 0:14:08 GMT
Oh, that's a new direction....
Not sure about the "equipment failure" (as really can you EVER imagine Captain von HOT having ... um... trouble?) but maybe he rejects Elsa who propositions him after Maria returns from the Abbey. Just a thought...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 0:15:55 GMT
i think you missed my innuendo about max. or i'm missing your point. the latter is very likely. either way, not important. I re-read what you initially posted about Max and I got it.... But now I wish I hadn't ... (Eewwww!)
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Post by utility_singer on Jan 30, 2014 0:55:20 GMT
Does the 'It's Complicated' option in the poll cater for Georg and Elsa getting together at the villa, say when Maria returns to the abbey, and just at the opportune moment, Georg suffers an equipment failure (like Lemacd's 'he CAN'T'), because he can't put M out of his mind? i.e. they do, but they don't? Sorry to be so obtuse. Well, I voted 'it's complicated' and I had him stop their, um, liaison whilst in Vienna. If that helps.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 1:08:18 GMT
Yes! I liked what you did in "Thoughts" utility.
I just remembered a fic from a while back where the plot went according to the movie up to the end of the gazebo and when G and M went back inside, Elsa was leaving and she collapses and they find out she is pregnant (so obvious G and E action prior to film). Then G breaks up with M but then E asks M to stay to help with the baby which she does (like... what the? How cruel is that to Maria?) can't remember what happened after that but I don't think the fic ever got finished...
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Post by augiesannie on Jan 30, 2014 1:17:47 GMT
i think you missed my innuendo about max. or i'm missing your point. the latter is very likely. either way, not important. I re-read what you initially posted about Max and I got it.... But now I wish I hadn't ... (Eewwww!) I didn't miss the innuendo, but I thought that lemacd was bringing Max into the picture only to compensate for a shortage of women.
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Post by augiesannie on Jan 30, 2014 1:19:20 GMT
Does the 'It's Complicated' option in the poll cater for Georg and Elsa getting together at the villa, say when Maria returns to the abbey, and just at the opportune moment, Georg suffers an equipment failure (like Lemacd's 'he CAN'T'), because he can't put M out of his mind? i.e. they do, but they don't? Sorry to be so obtuse. Well, I voted 'it's complicated' and I had him stop their, um, liaison whilst in Vienna. If that helps. I remember utility voting that way just before publishing that chapter, and being on the edge of my seat waiting to see how she'd explain her answer, and equipment failure never entered my mind.
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Post by lemacd on Jan 30, 2014 2:00:43 GMT
no, not about the shortage of women. i was just saying that in order for men to be a "player, socially accepted or not, there would also have to be women for them to play with. unless they didn't want to play with women. then i alluded to the max: is he or isn't he? controversy. which, yeah, ok. anyway... if G wanted to play, he played with women. and i'm sure his equipment was in perfect working order.
i'm bowing out of this conversation now because i think i've said way too much.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 2:18:55 GMT
That's what I thought you meant lemacd
And as I said before, I definitely don't think Georg would have had a problem (I mean, look at the man.... If that's not sexy, I don't know what is...)
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Post by utility_singer on Jan 30, 2014 2:30:42 GMT
Well, go back to that swimsuit picture. I'm sure that equipment is always in fine working order.
I think I need an intervention.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 2:37:04 GMT
Well, go back to that swimsuit picture. I'm sure that equipment is always in fine working order. I think I need an intervention. Ha ha ha! But really, do you EVER need an excuse to go back to that picture?
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Post by utility_singer on Jan 30, 2014 2:43:15 GMT
No.
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Post by augiesannie on Jan 30, 2014 2:49:32 GMT
no, not about the shortage of women. i was just saying that in order for men to be a "player, socially accepted or not, there would also have to be women for them to play with. unless they didn't want to play with women. then i alluded to the max: is he or isn't he? controversy. which, yeah, ok. anyway... if G wanted to play, he played with women. and i'm sure his equipment was in perfect working order. i'm bowing out of this conversation now because i think i've said way too much. ...I was only trying to be funny, actually. Which is hard to do electronically! I'm glad we came back to this thread, it was worth revisiting!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 3:05:29 GMT
I think there may be a few other topics I've seen that I missed out on the original conversations. I'll have a look later today...
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Post by indigoblue on Jan 30, 2014 9:58:16 GMT
You'll be gone for weeks!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 10:04:59 GMT
Yeah maybe... I'm just going to choose one at a time to pace myself. There is so much awesomeness here that I think it will turn into months.
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Post by cass on Aug 24, 2014 2:42:51 GMT
I've been arguing with myself over this one for yeeeears...
Every bit of logic I can apply says they were lovers. It just makes sense.
But at the same time, I can't see Georg leveling that amount of disrespect toward Elsa, as I think he is fully aware that any liaisons he has between Agathe's death and ultimately marrying Maria would have been more of the "use it and lose it" variety in a desperate attempt to feel something, anything. I think the way I tend to look at it now is that he probably gave in to a few women before he and Elsa became a serious item in her circles, but after that, he kept it courtly and gentlemanly. There's something about how Elsa handles herself with him, too, that leans me more toward a no.
It's bloody complicated, though, because the pendulum can so easily swing either way. *sigh* I don't think I'll ever come to a decision on this one.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2014 5:25:54 GMT
I've so enjoyed re-reading this thread - it is so much fun going back to old topics.
so I've changed my mind and I think I'll vote from "it's complicated" to "no" (as there is no sexy time between G and E!)
I have it in my mind that Elsa comes to try and seduce Georg after Maria leaves and it is a big fat no. I think I had written in Honeymoon Encounters that Georg had a fling that left him feeling empty and so decided not to enter into another physical relationship until he was married again which meant rejecting Elsa's advances.
Maybe I should write that story sometime where Elsa tries to proposition him and gets massively rejected?
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Post by augiesannie on Aug 24, 2014 10:24:57 GMT
That would be great @charleybec! cass, I think I come pretty close to your theory - empty encounters, then trying to change the dynamic with Elsa - Elsa does have this very subtle provocativeness, as though she's a lady but reminding him what lies beneath (and there is that uncomfortable moment when she puts herself out there emotionally and he kind of flinches away from it). I did write a story in which G&E were together once, after M runs away, and he's trying to convince himself that this is going to be good enough, that it's all he deserves. It's a caddish thing to do to Elsa, I know. But let's face it, Elsa and Max are functional characters. I wish them the best. A little worried about how Max is going to fare with the Nazis.
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Post by utility_singer on Aug 24, 2014 12:23:19 GMT
So much good stuff here. Elsa definitely is putting the (subtle, classy) moves on Georg by the lakeside, and his discomfort is obvious. It's like he knows he SHOULD want her, but just....doesn't.
@charleybec, yes, write that story!
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Post by augiesannie on Aug 24, 2014 20:10:00 GMT
In the car today I briefed my husband on this whole discussion. I think he most enjoyed my retelling of utility_singer's Vienna interlude. I could not quite pin him down on the poll question, though.
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Post by lemacd on Aug 25, 2014 18:04:40 GMT
It's funny. I voted yes (I think) and stand by it. But in my ponderings for the Elsa story, I don't think they did. Or at least I don't think it comes up. Ok perhaps bad choice of words. But no, I don't think they did in my story. How this possible? Am I really a closet 'no'?
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